Things I Don't Like Doing | Anxiety

ermm.. I hope you guys don't think I'm a weirdo after you read this post.. I'm going to list a few things that most people find normal to do, but I find fearful or uncomfortable. I would like to add that these are certain situations I can think of that I wouldn't do on my own, if I have a friend etc. with me then I normally feel comfortable. I think my anxiety goes from extreeme to the other because there are a lot scarier things like doing announcements in front of 100's of people  and I actually feel comfortable doing that .. weird huh? anyways the list:



Going to A hairdresser  - I find hairdressers A bitchy and competitive place. Whenever I've been I can feel the tension between the workers (and I've tried a few hairdressers) Once I went to get my hair Ombre'd, when I asked the hairdresser for it she decided to change my mind to highlights. She did my hair and asked if I wanted it dried and straightened. I said NO because it was an extra charge for something I was willing to do at home, but the hairdresser sent an assistant over to do it anyways and so I thought it was free of charge. Not only did she deliberately charge me the extra charges, my hair looked nearly NO DIFFERENT, but I felt too uncomfortable to complain and so walked out £125 less off. I knew she knew I didn't feel calm there and she took advantage of that.

Returning something -  Yep, I'm one of those people that don't return items. I have many pieces of clothing stuck in my wardrobe with tags still on. I have taken things back before when I HAD to, when it's been really expensive for example, but everytime I do return an item I feel like I'm being judged, like I'm a cheapskate or something. I've never even had a bad experience, but I guess I'm in the mind set that you should make sure you're 100% happy with the item before purchasing?! I nearly always go by that haha....

Making A complaint - This is kinda A mixture of the first two? In my job I deal with A lot of complaints and so I know the routes and things to say when complaining, but I just can't do it myself. For example at A restaurant if I am not happy with the service or the food it would take a large push from my friends to complain, it's like I don't want to get anyone in trouble. I feel like if do make a complaint then instantly the people surrounding the company (in this case the restaurant workers) will all hate me. I guess I like to stick in my bubble and suffer in silence. There is one way I would complain and that is in an email or sometimes over the phone. I guess that's the chicken way but I can't stand confrontation unless it's A must.
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The point is that I can actually do all these things, I know that you know that.  I have done all these things before and they haven't done anything really bad to me. I guess I just like to stay in my bubble and avoid any trouble or problems. When it comes down to it, if I have to do something I'll do it, I'm a young adult at the end of the day. I wish I could listen to my own advice.

 I just wondered am I the only person that find these stressful situations??
What makes you feel uncomfortable?

Love Laura xx

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15 comments

  1. I tend to get anxious about returning things too. I feel like I'm being judged too. I may make a post like this in the New Year too because I actually found this really great to read! x

    morerebe.com

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    1. yes please I would love to read it !!! xxx

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  2. This was a very interesting read. It's interesting to see how anxiety affects different people in different ways/situations.

    I used to hate returning things as well because I thought I'd get judged for it. I overcame that pretty quickly when I started uni and I had to budget. If I didn't want/need something, it HAD to go back so that I could get my money back.

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  3. i also hate making complaints! i feel really bad and rude

    check out my blog?
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  4. I totally understand what your getting at with this post. I suffer with anxiety and sometimes its so hard to get by doing things which other people just see as normal every day routines. I hate going anywhere by myself and avoid the hair dressers too! If I am out alone I try and get everything done as quick as I can so I can run to the comfort of my home. I think its good to try something different every now and again and push yourself every so often so the uncommon can become common. I did a post on depression which was popular and this has defiantly inspired me to write one on anxiety. Thanks!

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    x

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    1. yes, exactly.. i'm the same! I'm jelous of people that can do everything on their own xx

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  6. Everyone has boundaries to what they feel comfortable with, but what's good is that you recognise that!

    I admit, I'm very bad at a couple of these - the complaining in restaurants one, mainly because I'm worried about what they'll do to the food. But I think - what's the worst that could happen? I don't have to see these people again if I don't want to.

    There is no easy way to deal with it I know, but I hope you find a way of managing it a lot more easily :) x

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    1. yes, I don't want anyone to do anything bad to my food!!
      and ye I manage :) x


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  7. Yes! Complaining at hairdressers is something I CANNOT do. I had all my hair cut off once, to chin length, and the time I had it all chopped was fine, it was the perfect length. When I went back for a trim though, I asked her to not take it above my chin and she took it half way up my cheek! After sitting there for a couple of hours talking to someone, its really hard to turn around and say you're not happy… Think my Mum phoned up and complained for me **wimp** but I was too embarrassed to ever go back. I'm a new follower!

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    1. I'm glad it's not just me that finds it tough when it comes to hairdressers xx
      and course I will :)

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  8. Really great post Laura, it's nice to see something like this being addressed in a post <3

    I have avoided hairdressers most of my life, I don't feel comfortable and assume that I might be judged. At school I got teased because my hair was a total split end mess & I even attempted cutting it myself with horrendous results just so I didn't have to go! Luckily we have a really lovely and friendly hairdresser who comes to our house & does a fab job... she's more like a friend now than a hairdresser.

    As much as I can enjoy my own company & like doing things alone sometimes, my lack of confidence does stop me xo

    Sophie | soinspo

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    1. I love when I get responses like this, makes me feel like I'm not alone!
      I just bring a friend along with me to the hairdressers and I feel much more secure (if that makes sense ) xx

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