"Friends With Benefits"

Ha..
From the title, you may think I've got some juicy goss to tell you, but I don't.
This is in fact.. A opinionated post on the friends with benefits situation. You're probably wondering do I agree with it?... HELL NO!

If you don't know what "FWB" is, well I describe it as friends using each other for sex etc. and I use the word using, because that's exactly how I see it!
I believe that if you can be that close/intimate with someone, then why not just be in a relationship? People use time as an excuse, but if you have the time to have a casual bonk (weird word) a couple times a week, then time isn't really the issue.
Now admittedly I've never tried the whole friends with benefits, because as you know I don't agree with it, but I have observed MANY times the situation unfold with lots of my close friends, and it always ends bad.

Many people decide to be FWB because they like the other person so much that they're willing to be a standby, hoping the other person will fall for them. I would say 8 times out of 10 one side of the FWB will have stronger feelings than the other side, so then people get HURT.
There are a lot of stupid (sorry) girls that think the guy is really interested in them if they're willing to sleep with them. Guys use girls - shock horror, and yes sometimes it's the other way round I know. But once a girl gives the goods a couple of times there's no mutual respect for each other. So now the relationship is left physical.

Reading this back I think I sound a bit old fashioned? don't get me wrong I would happily get with a guy that I'm not in a relationship with, but only with the know that it's going somewhere, ending in a relationship. If I know that it's not going anywhere, then what's the point?
So.. what are your thoughts on the situation, do you think FWB can work?

Love Laura xxx



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  1. I think Friends with Benefits can work for some people. Not a lot, but some. Though it's not just guys that use girls - can be the other way round too (seen a few guy mates get walked all over, bless 'em)
    Megan x | MeganRoisinn

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    1. yea of course it can be the other way round too! yea you're right I've seen a close guy mate be walked all over!x

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  2. Great post! I couldn't agree more with you. I once saw a docomentary on tv that showed it was nearly impossible for girls to have sex with someone without developing some kind of feelings towards him, even male Hookers! Guess it's just a girl thing, since it was different for the boys.
    Hope to read more posts from you like this :)
    xoxo
    2 Girls And a Blog

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    1. ye they mentioned something about that on TV the other day! And aww yea there will be x

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  3. I dont think it can really work to be honest!

    Hannah Heartss xxx

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    1. Sometimes it works I guess, most of the time no xx

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  4. I don't think its an old fashioned opinion at all, i agree with you that its hard to make it work without feelings getting involved, which more often than not happens to the girl more than the guy! I think the only circumstance where it could work is if the guy really likes the girl anyway, and the girl chooses to be fwb first before developing into more of a relationship. that way she knows the guy has feelings and it could potentially lead to more
    xx

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    1. ye I agree, thanks for your feedback :)

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  5. Although I agree that it wouldn't work between the two people involved around 90% of the time, I think if it works for you then why not?
    Although I don't think I could do it personally, I have close friends who have had relationships (if you can call it that) like this and it's worked out well. Both people had only a sexual relationship and then when they moved away for university there were no hard feelings or emotions and they just on with their life like normal.
    But then on the other hand I know several people who have tried this and it hasn't worked and even one 'friendship' ended in having an accidental baby...the couple are now engaged and I guess it defeats the object of being FWB.
    Great post!

    lovefrombethan.blogspot.co.uk

    xox

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    1. yea I think if you find the right person to do it with it could work I guess xx

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  6. I think it solely depends on the two persons in the whole FWB arrangement, I mean kudos to them if the entire thing pans out like it does in most movies but if not....then that's when things get messy, especially when emotions get in line. This post really had me thinking though! :)

    Followed you, think you could check out my blog? x

    http://theilyxx.blogspot.com/

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    1. ye defo not like the movies, if only it was haha xx

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  7. Been there, done that - got the T-shirt as they say. In total agreement it DOES NOT work. It's friendship suicide! Great post by the way!

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    1. that's a shame it didn't work for you, thanks for the feedback x

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  8. Hmm, never personally done it, but come close to doing something similar before realising what I was doing.

    Might work for some people, but like you say, I think it's very easy for one side to become more involved than the other!

    Love your pic too, made me chuckle! :)

    Hmm maybe...

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  9. I'm not a fan of it tbh. Friends of mine have done it and they always end up hurt.

    Liv xo

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    1. yea I just don't understand when people let it get out of hand x

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  10. When I started reading this I knew what I wanted to comment, but then you pretty much wrote it in your post! I was going to comment on the whole 'one sided' issue and that (usually girls) like the guy A LOT more than the guy likes them, so they sleep with them thinking it leads to romance, when in fact it does exactly the opposite. I think this post, however random it is, is completely spot on. I feel the same as you and I always have done. Life isn't a RomCom, girls genuinely think that they're Mila Kunis or Natalie Portman, just because it worked for them in those 2 famous films. I'd never in my life lower myself to those standards, to me it's incredible tacky and can look like you're a bit of a slut when you might well be the nicest person in the world. I'm lucky enough to have met my boyfriend when I was just 15 (we're the same age so there's no weirdness) so I've been in a relationship for a long time so I've never had to consider this option, but I KNOW for a fact I never would have.
    Sorry for the long comment!
    Lilie | mintcandylilies

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    1. I love reading long comments! so don't apologize :D I think the worst part is when one person has many different friends with benefits all at the same time, then you do look like a bit of a slut?! x

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  11. Without sounding absolutely horrendous, I've been in this situation. It kind of just happened and wasn't really planned but me & a guy ended up being FWB. I completely 100% agree with you on the fact that most probably, 9 times out of 10 it does not work. Someone always ends up developing feeling for the other and in my case it was the guy. He started to fall for me big time & got quite serious etc and its a difficult situation to be in. I'd never let that happen again.

    Very interesting post!

    www.hbbeautyblog.blogspot.com

    Hannah xoxo

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    1. oh no, yea that's defo a difficult situation!! I have had the same thing in which a guy fell for me big time and I didn't end up feeling the same way about him :/ x

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  12. I guess we're old fashioned too because just the thought of this makes us sad for the people who do it. I mean on one hand, it's like, "To each his own." But then, we feel like sex is something that you should only share with a person that you actually have feelings for. And we don't mean just "friendly" feelings. LOL. Anyways, every one looks at this subject so differently. We know plenty of people who do it and just don't judge them for it.

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  15. Wow so true! I've never personally seen a FWB relationship, but i have always wondered about how realistic & plausible or..healthy they were. awesome post!

    x leah symonne x

    itsleli.blogspot.com

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  16. Bonk! lol..I completely agree with you and although it hasn't happened to me I have been witness to the train wreak that a FWB relationship can leave a person! Great post! Hopefully someone in the same situation will read it and catch a clue. Lovin the Blog ~Mystic Fury

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  17. yes, i absolutely agree with this ! what a great post !
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